A GUIDE FOR TWO PEOPLE
Stop having the same fight about the phone.
The Social Media Prenup is an 18 page guide that takes two people from an argument they keep repeating to a written agreement they both signed. One sitting. No counseling, no apps, no lectures about screen time.
$27 one time. Instant download. Read it on a phone, a laptop, or print it.
The app was never the problem. It is just where you found out.
The fight starts over a like, or a follow, or a name that turned up in a notification. But an app does not cause anything. It is only the place where something became visible.
That is why “put your phone down” never works. It aims at the behavior that was easiest to see, and the behavior that was easiest to see is almost never the part that hurt. So the phone goes down, and three weeks later the same argument arrives wearing different clothes.
Underneath, it is almost always one of three things.
Name it, and the conversation gets shorter.
Secrecy
It is not what they did. It is that you found out sideways.
What is really being asked: am I still on the inside?
Attention
Warmth that used to come home is going somewhere else.
What is really being asked: am I still the priority?
Comparison
The threat is not a person. It is a feed.
What is really being asked: am I still enough?
Most arguments are one of these wearing a costume.
Most couples write rules that were never going to survive.
Not because either person is lying. Because of how the rule was written. A rule has to pass three tests, and almost none of the rules people make in the middle of an argument pass even one.
It has to be observable. Someone outside the relationship could tell whether it happened. “Be more respectful online” is a mood. “Tell me before you add someone I have not met” is an event.
It has to be mutual. Same words, both people, no carve out for whoever proposed it. A rule that binds one person is not an agreement.
There have to be only a few. Three to five you can hold in your head. Twelve is a policy manual, and nobody follows one of those from memory.
Five parts. Eighteen pages. Nothing to wade through.
It Is Not About the Phone. The three flashpoints, what makes a rule hold, and the line where a boundary turns into control. Pages 3 to 6.
The Solo Audit. Fourteen situations you each answer alone, then sort into three piles so you know exactly which ones need a conversation before you open your mouth. Pages 7 to 9.
The Conversation. The opening line word for word, four openings that start a fight, and the four replies you should expect with what to say to each. Pages 10 to 12.
The Gray Area Index. Twenty real situations, each with a default worth starting from. Pages 13 to 15.
Your Agreement. A one page template you both sign, what to do the first time a rule gets broken, and a twenty minute review so it does not go stale. Pages 16 to 18.
This is what you actually get.
The solo audit. You each fill it in alone.
The gray area index. Twenty defaults to argue with.
The agreement. One page, both names.
Twenty situations. Each one with a default to start from.
Not verdicts. Starting points, so you are editing something instead of inventing rules from nothing at eleven at night.
Plus eight more, each with the same one line default.
$27 one time. Instant download.
Be honest about which one you are.
This is for you if:
- You keep having the same argument and neither of you is enjoying it.
- You want rules you both agreed to, not rules one of you announced.
- You would rather have one awkward conversation than twelve short ones.
- You are willing to write down one thing you do that probably bothers them.
This is not for you if:
- You want proof of something. This is not an investigation and it will not help you run one.
- You want your partner to follow rules you do not intend to follow yourself.
- You are looking for counseling. This is a practical guide and it is not a substitute for talking to a professional.
- Someone in the relationship is being monitored, isolated, threatened, or punished. That is not a boundaries problem, and rules will not fix it. Page 6 says so plainly.
One payment. Yours to keep.
- The full 18 page guide as a PDF
- The 14 question solo audit, ready to print or fill in on screen
- All 20 gray areas with a default for each
- The one page agreement template
- The repair steps for when a rule gets broken
- Read it on a phone, a laptop, or print it. It is yours, forever, no subscription
If it is not useful to you, email support@thesocialmediaprenup.com within 30 days and we will refund it.
Frequently Asked Questions
You are not trying to win the argument about the phone. You are trying to never have it again.
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