It Is Not
About the
Phone.

An 18 page guide for two. You each answer alone, compare, then sign one page you both agreed to.

$27 $19 one time. Instant download.

The "like" is just the part you can point to.

It starts small. A like, a follow, a name that pops up in a notification. Then it's midnight and you're both still talking about it.

That's why “just put your phone down” doesn't work. The phone goes down, and three weeks later you're having the same fight over something else.

It usually comes down to one of three things.

Secrecy

You found out from a notification, and that's what stung.

am I still on the inside?

Attention

The warmth you used to get at home seems to be going somewhere else.

am I still the priority?

Comparison

There's no one person to blame, just a feed that makes you feel like less.

am I still enough?

Rules made in the middle of a fight rarely last.

Nobody's lying when they make them. Those rules just don't pass three simple tests.

You can tell if it happened.

“Be more respectful online” is a mood. “Tell me before you add someone I haven't met” is something you can actually check.

It applies to both of you.

Same words for both people, with no exception for whoever suggested it.

There aren't many.

Three to five you can remember. Nobody follows twelve rules from memory.

Five parts. Eighteen pages.

It Is Not About the Phone

The three flashpoints, what makes a rule hold up, and where a boundary turns into control.

PAGES 3 TO 6

The Solo Audit

Fourteen situations you each answer alone, so you know which ones need a talk before you start.

PAGES 7 TO 9

The Conversation

The opening line, word for word. Four openings that start a fight. Four replies to expect, and what to say back.

PAGES 10 TO 12

The Gray Area Index

Twenty real situations, each with a default to start from.

PAGES 13 TO 15

Your Agreement

A one page template you both sign, what to do the first time a rule gets broken, and a twenty minute review to keep it current.

PAGES 16 TO 18

Here's what you actually get.

The Solo Audit page
The Gray Area Index page
The agreement page
The Solo Audit. You each fill it in alone.The Gray Area Index. Twenty defaults to argue with.The agreement. One page, both names.

Twenty situations, each with a place to start.

They're starting points, so you're not making up rules from scratch at eleven at night.

  • Following an ex
  • An ex sends a message
  • Liking a stranger's photo
  • A flirty message arrives
  • A private second account
  • Posting a photo of your partner
  • Late night replies to a coworker
  • Phone face down when they walk in
  • Passcodes, and reading each other's phones
  • Close friends lists that leave one of you out
  • An old photo with an ex that's still up
  • Someone from the past reappears

Plus eight more.

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Be honest about which one you are.

This is for you if
  • You keep having the same argument and neither of you is enjoying it.
  • You want rules you both agreed to, instead of rules one of you announced.
  • You'd rather have one awkward talk than twelve short ones.
  • You're willing to write down one thing you do that probably bothers them.
This isn't for you if
  • You want proof of something. This won't help you investigate anyone.
  • You want your partner to follow rules you won't follow yourself.
  • You're looking for counseling. This is a practical guide, and it's no substitute for talking to a professional.
  • Someone in the relationship is being monitored, isolated, threatened, or punished. That isn't a boundaries problem, and rules won't fix it. Page 6 says so plainly.

One payment. It's yours to keep.

  • The full 18 page guide as a PDF
  • The 14 question Solo Audit, ready to print or fill in on screen
  • All 20 gray areas, each with a default
  • The one page agreement template
  • The repair steps for when a rule gets broken
  • Read it on a phone or a laptop, or print it. No subscription.

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Questions

Does my partner have to read it too?

Yes. You each fill in the first parts on your own, and that's what makes the conversation work. If only one of you reads it, you end up with a list of opinions instead of an agreement.

Is this therapy or counseling?

No. It's a practical guide you can use in one sitting, and it says so inside, twice. If you need counseling, this won't replace it.

What if my partner won't sit down for this?

You get the opening line word for word, plus four replies to expect and what to say to each. It can't make anyone willing, but it can help you get through the first two minutes, which is usually where these talks go wrong.

We've been together a long time. Is this for new couples?

It's for any two people who share a life and keep having the same argument. Nothing in it depends on how long you've been together.

What format is it and how do I get it?

It's a PDF, and you get it right after checkout. Read it on a phone or a laptop, or print the whole thing. The audit and the agreement are made to be written on.

Is it going to tell me to delete my accounts?

No. Nothing in the guide asks anyone to quit an app, unfollow anyone, or hand over a phone. You just agree on what you'll both do.

You don't need to win this fight. You just need to stop having it.

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